Body + Spirit
How To Serve People Without Becoming a People Pleaser
Fact, everybody wants to be liked. You can test this theory by simply going to check how many likes that last selfie you posted received. Now, there’s nothing wrong with being well liked by others. Like-ability is actually a great gift to have especially as servants of Christ. Being an effective servant requires a level of people skills that not everyone possesses. Serving others is what we all are called to do and we are to do it for the Lord–not for people.
Colossians 3:23 says, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters. While Ephesians 6:7 tells us to “Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people. Don’t be inferior to the way people think or feel about you. Don’t be pressured into doing things because it will make someone else happy when you aren’t OK with it. You will drain yourself trying to please people who are motivated by personal gain because they are never satisfied.
We as believers can sometimes become so eager to please God that we confuse serving him with pleasing people. We want to please others because it’s admirable and increases our popularity. We may even gain a confidence boost, but it all comes down to one thing–motives. Are you motivated because of personal gain of favor with people or a genuine love for God? Our motives for doing anything should always be because God has prompted us and we want to please Him.
Our priorities become well balanced when we put God first. Spending quality time with God before starting each day will give you clear and precise direction for the day. Finding a balance between serving God and not becoming a people pleaser can be easily done by following the leading of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit gives us a sense of self-love while serving others out of love, therefore creating balance. This also provides a sense of peace while serving.
There’s security in knowing the love of God because His love fills any void that we may be feeling. Another person can provide us with a sense of security, but they should not be the primary source that approval is sought from. Isaiah 2:22 instructs us to stop trusting in mere humans who have but a breath in their nostrils. Why hold them in high esteem? It is a sin to put anyone or anything above God. Men are but mortal frail beings whose lives are but a mere breath. He is alive today and tomorrow he is not, he is accounted as nothing. Our approval is found in God. Only His love completes us and makes us whole.
Put God first in all that you do, and he will give you whatever else is required for wholesome living. Don’t get out of balance by operating in your own strength and will. Being a God pleaser is worth far more than being a people pleaser. Remember, it is God who we exist for and He is the only one whose opinion matters.